The goal of a first date is to see if you are compatible. And a great first date can lead to a second date! So how can you be assured your first date is successful?

1. KISS.
No, not the physical act of kissing, even though that may happen on a first date. KISS, as in "Keep It Simple Sally/Steve". Make your first date a coffee date. Just coffee. Nothing elaborate or drawn out. No four course meal at a fancy restaurant. No dinner, movie, dessert, etc. Just a simple coffee date - where the man buys the woman a cup of coffee / tea. The purpose is to talk, to get to know each other better, to take a look at one another - up close.

Meet in a public coffee shop or café. Any time of the day is fine. Arrange to meet for about 30 - 60 minutes. Keeping additional time open is nice, in case you really hit it off, but even then, keep the first date under 90 minutes.

2. Find Common Ground.
Talk. Ask questions. Listen. Find out about your date's likes and dislikes, their values, what's important to them, what makes them feel special, what qualities they're looking for in a partner.

And, listen for things you have in common. People like people who are similar to themselves, not different. So when you date says they really like hiking and you do too - speak up. Get curious and ask questions. "Where is your favorite trail?" "Have you ever hiked up Mt. Si?" "What's your favorite time of the year to hike?" You get the picture.

When you date says "Me too!" you know you've found something you have in common and discovering those things makes people feel closer to one another.

3. End on a High Note.
Even if the date is going great and the sparks are flying, don't over-do it; keep the first date short. Say something positive, let them know you really enjoyed meeting them, then say goodbye. Don't wait for the date to become boring or drawn-out.

If you sense things are winding down, it's always better to end while everyone is having fun and is in a good mood, than to risk either of you getting tired or running out of things to talk about.

Always leave your date wanting more.

It's best to have a great first date then schedule time to meet again if you really like each other.