8 Tips to Flirt Effectively
by Dee Ann Stiles

1. Captivate with your eyes
Get and keep eye contact with the other person.  Do more than just the regular eye-to-eye connection we have when talking with someone.  Really look and gaze at them with captivating eyes that sexily say, "Please come closer.  You're special. Let's get to know each other."

2. Smile magnetically
A big, sexy smile radiates confidence and draws people magnetically to you.  It puts your flirtee at ease and safely invites him or her to talk with you.  A magnetic smile is the honey of flirting that draws the bees ? friends and beaus to your growing social circle.

3. Invite open conversation
There's nothing like a warm, genuine invitation to talk openly.  The secret to talk flirting is to show total interest, genuine listening, back and forth flowing communication and a light-hearted, almost whimsical tone.  Guys, ask how she feels about anything important in her life.  Gals, have him tell you the story of his success in anything.

4. Sincerely compliment
Compliments are the sweet talk of flirting.  The secrets to compliment flirting are:  Be sincere, enthusiastic, and personal.  If the situation warrants, guys you can tell her how beautiful she is ? inside and out ? and gallantly kiss her hand.  Gals, compliment him on anything that has to do with jobs, sports, and physical/sexual prowess.

5. Use body language
Most communication is non-verbal body language.  Here are some of flirting's secret body moves:  The simple touch, leaning in toward the other person, tilting your head with interest, winking, sensuously sipping your straw or licking your lips, being in-sync with the other person's moves, and teasingly twirling things like straws, pens, even hair.

6. Ooze with interest
Act as if he or she were the most important person in your world and nothing else matters at the moment.  Ooze with the allure of your undivided attention, fascination, and interest in just them.  "There is nothing sexier or more complimentary than someone who flirts entranced with me and thinks I hung the moon." said Mark, a chemical engineer in Houston.

7. Get your wit going
Relax, remember a confidence building smash hit date, flip on your crazy switch, and get into your "fun and witty groove."  Open up and tell a joke or share a funny story.  Keep it in good taste.  Start a clever banter and teasing back and forth.  Let the power of attraction inspire your wit and personality to open up, charm, laugh and have that magical fun of flirting.

8. Glow with excitement
They say the chemistry sparks may fly when two well-matched people meet, especially when they turn out to be soul mates.  "When we're flirting, there's just a special glow that radiates from your smile, your eyes and your whole aura.  It's as if you almost glow red with the hot rush of flirting." said Sherrie, a decorator in Miami.

The real secret to mastering the art of flirting is to find that special attraction and have fun pouring out the magnetism, heart and charm.

4 Foolproof Flirting Tips
by MarsVenus.com

1. Eye Contact.  Never underestimate the power of catching a stranger's eye across a crowded room.  To learn how to make flirtatious eye contact try these four steps:

a. You will generally have the best results if you select a person who is about the same level of attractiveness as you are.  If you set your sights too high they may not be interested, and if you set your sights too low they may think, "Is she looking at me?" and not realize your intent.

b. Look in their direction until you make eye contact.

c. Once you lock eyes, hold your gaze for a few seconds.  Then look away.

d. Wait 10 seconds and look back.  If they're interested they will still be looking at you (or standing beside you!).

2. Body Language.  Practice an inviting and open posture to show that you are interested in flirting.  Don't cross your arms or hold your purse in front of your body.  If you're feeling nervous, pay attention to your own body language.  If you're rubbing your hands together or fidgeting, this will say that you're uncomfortable.  Try standing still with your weight evenly distributed and your abs tight.  This posture conveys that you feel confident and relaxed.  Next to your eyes, your biggest flirtatious asset is your smile.  Genuinely smiling at a person conveys true interest.  When someone is speaking, you can show your attentiveness by nodding your head to help the conversation flow.

3. Touch.  Touching should only happen when you are sure that if the person touched you back you would feel OK with it.  Try slightly brushing their arm while talking.  Later, reach out and touch their arm longer.  The amount of touch should build in small doses.

4. Compliments.  Complimenting your partner on something you obviously like is a good conversation starter.  It also conveys your feelings of attraction. Reserve your compliments for moments when you genuinely mean them.  Fake compliments will convey dishonesty.  Also, space your compliments apart.  Offering too many compliments can backfire and make you look desperate.

Flirting is the first step towards finding a fun and healthy relationship.

Top Ten Flirting Tips
by Fran Greene

10. Flirting is an attitude.  A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks.  Be enthusiastic and positive, it works!

9. Start a conversation.  The best opening line is saying hello.  Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.

8. Have fun.  Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous.  Show your vulnerability.

7. Use props.  Never leave home without a prop.  Props are natural conversation starters.  They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you.  Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, interesting ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.

6. Be the host.  Change your behavior from the role of guest to host.  You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee.

5. Make the first move.  Move closer to the person you want to meet.  Say hello!

4. Listen.  You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak.  Listening is a true art.  Your flirting partner will be drawn to you.  Everyone loves to be heard.

3. Eye contact.  Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away.  Don't stare - it's a turn off.

2. Compliment.  Compliment your flirting partner.  The best compliments have the element of surprise.  The "flirtee" will know that you really noticed them.  Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine.  When you receive a compliment the best response is merely, Thank You!

1. Smile.  It is contagious.  It will make you so much more approachable.  A smile lights up your face and draws people to you.  You will be a people magnet.  Try it!

6 Flirting Tips to Make Her Notice You
by Kate Maurer

1. Master the art of eye contact.  You know when it's happening.  You're looking at her; now she's looking at you.  Now you're looking away.  Now you're looking again; now she caught you looking.  It's the popular and dreaded game.  Popular because it's fun and dreaded because - now what do you do?

Once you're sure you're both playing the game, try acknowledging it.  Wave, smile or make some non-threatening gesture. Don't mouth any words, though; very few people can read lips and who knows what they'll think you're trying say?

2. Take the direct approach.  Want to learn the greatest pick-up line?  The one that's mature, sophisticated, charming and versatile?  Here it is:  "Hi, my name is..."

Easy enough?  Straightforwardness is refreshing and doesn't leave you with an image to maintain.  A friend of mine was once charmed silly by a guy who approached her in a store and asked, "Will you be my friend?"  It takes a particular personality and audience to pull that one off, but you get the idea.

3. Drop all pretense and be yourself.  Just because you're flirting doesn't mean you need to put on your Don Juan alter ego. There's nothing creepier than flirting with someone who isn't visible beneath the charm.  Be yourself and flirt in the spaces in between.  (You're trying to meet a woman who actually likes you - the real you, right?)

4. Wag that silver tongue.  Don't pass up the opportunity to make one honest, original, tasteful, cheese-free compliment: "You smile like you're really having a great time."

Don't press the point or pile on other compliments; just let the conversation move on.  If you can pull it off gracefully, she'll love hearing about herself without being put on the spot.

5. Begin with body language.  Be aware of body language - both yours and hers.  Does she lean in or pull away?  Are you both facing each other?  Are her legs crossed?  This is the physical level of flirting, and if you're both into it, it's great fun.

Moving into and away from each other's space, people gently test the degree of mutual comfort and attraction.  Don't take any touching lightly or rush into her space.  A friendly touch on the shoulder or elbow, approached slowly, gives both of you a second to notice and appreciate that first casual physical contact.

6. Remember the kid in you.  We've outgrown pulling pigtails and acting up, but flirting still has fun and innocent qualities. Plus, being silly relieves tension.  Start things out with a good time, even if it involves napkin origami or playing bottle cap table hockey!